eulogized death.

Eulogising Love

A cruel suicide or murder of a youth is in the news.

Whatever the legal term is, a young life is lost in the name of love.

People will make a hue and cry about our caste system and the audacity of elders clinging to old thoughts about 'love'. There may be innumerable debates on Television channels highlighting the pangs of lovers and the society’s irresponsibility.

Lovers would be interviewed and mailboxes will be filled with painful letters to the editors.

But no one will be sane enough to ask a simple question "is a puppy love or adolescent attraction worth a valuable life"?

If that is asked then immediately he will be stamped as the most insane human on earth by media and youngsters.

Think of any movie without a punch line eulogising love in any form.

Puppy love, college love, office love or love between old and young and ofcourse extra marital affairs conveniently stamped as love sought by the neglected!

Why do our movies make such noise over love when all it can do is bring two youngsters together? There is never a “and they lived ever after" fairy tale ending in real life. Almost all Indian movies have the same formula. A boy however low he may be will be attracted to an ultra modern high heeled, low necked tight jeans clad, fair, rich ( add a few more adjectives if you can) girl. And there starts the sugar coated eve teasing. Resistance and name throwing by the girl is not going to stop the boy. He never takes a No for an answer. Finally some good Samaritan works out the union. And the friends of both sides also 
make sure the love birds unite.

But what happens after we walk out of the theatre?

Does the unemployed unqualified poor boy maintain the family in a decent way?

Does the girl who was used to high end living adjusts to the grime and dust of his place?

Do they have children? And if so how do they educate in this time of high cost education system?

And do they really live happily ever after?

These questions are not to be asked if you are to be accepted by the youth.

Face the reality guys and girls. Life is not such an easy one liner.

And now the other side of the coin. The boy is rejected outright by the girl. What is to be done? Can he continue to look for better things in life? Is he allowed to have a normal 
life? Does his attitude that after all love is not everything and at one stage it is nothing but a passing cloud is understood by the people? I mean people in the movie of course!

No sir No. If the love is rejected by either of them the other person has no choice but to take his /her life by cutting the blood line. He is then taken to the hospital not by the girl or boy but by the parents and friends.  They die under the very eyes of the society which applauds their courage to face death in the name of love. And a one liner or a lecture by the socially irresponsible Director eulogises lovers( cowards)

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And we leave the theatre heavy hearted blaming one and all for this end.

Who is going to tell these youngsters who take their life so easily that there are more important roles to be played in this world than a lover boy.

Can someone counsel them please?

Young boys and girls! Ask these questions to yourselves.

Whose life is it any way?

It is yours and by taking it away you are also plucking the happiness from your near and dears whose only crime was to be associated with you.

Do you have the right to play with their life?

Will the friends, who cajoled you, pushed you into Love come with you in ups and downs?

Is life only the period between 15- 20 years?

If all around you are pushed and emotionalised by such obsessions can you be happy?

Do you get carried away by the silver screen glitters?

Answer these questions and more and take the counselling to tide over these trying time.

And some day when you grow up you will laugh at the whole thing.What was the only important emotion in your teens may not even have a corner in your thirties or forties.

And now I am not talking about the love flourished out of long term association and understanding, where emotions and logical thinking coexist and compliment each other.

Until such stage is reached in wedlock between a sane man and a woman keep your mind fixed on getting the knowledge and courage to face the world.

And after all these if you still want to love and suffer go ahead and do it with brain and not just emotion..